The Ever-So-Sweet “Yes”

23 03 2012

"Yes" please!

enjoy love video games! I was sitting on my couch with a mound of work to do one afternoon, longingly staring at my X-box 360, wishing I could play it. This feeling and longing lasted for a few weeks, and in all that time I never once turned on my X-box.

With a baby on the way the thought hit me, “I don’t want to be playing with Maddy, wishing I was playing with my X-box instead.” – enter the dilemma –  I knew when Maddy came I’d be spending her waking moments giving her attention, and focusing on my leadership endeavor in her sleeping moments. The only reason I was keeping my X-box 360 was because it was a sort of trophy for me. One, by the way, I did not earn. Sooooo… my solution: give it away!

And that’s what I did! I gave it away. Only, I gave it to an eighth grader who couldn’t necessarily take home all of the games I had (rated T and above were out of the question). In fact I kept 17 games that I had no system to play on.

So what’s the my logical next step, sell the games, get some some pocket cash. My only challenge finding someone to buy the games.

Yesterday I wrote a post about how the worst anyone can say when you ask for something is “no.”  You can read that post here. However, when I was willing to sell 17 games for 50,ooo won (a little less than $50), I wasn’t expecting to hear a “no.” Only, I did!

There is a copycat game-stop in down town Songtan (little copyright laws in Korea) that I took my games to; the old man looked at them, handed them back and said, “too old, no one buy.” And at that he went back to staring out the window. In my head I thought, “Really? Too old? No-one buy? Challenge accepted!”

When I got back to where I had WiFi I listed the games  and my asking price on Facebook, within 30 minutes I had a taker, and just like that my games are now sold. It’s true that “no’s” lead us to “yes’s,” but they don’t come looking for us, we have to go find them!

I love hearing the “ever-so-sweet yes” after a “mater-of-fact no”!

Old, Korean man: 0         Mason: 1


It’s just a “no”

22 03 2012

No matter how they say it, the worst anybody can say is "No"

Suits, tuxes, churches, receptions, food, orderves, drinks, flowers … and anything else that belongs in a wedding – you can tell I didn’t have much to do with the planning. To be honest, my favorite part was getting to lick the envelopes for our invitations (don’t judge). As Marla was preparing and finalizing our plans, the one thing that she wanted most was great pictures. She had been “stalking” this photographer from Lubbock Texas, and was absolutely in love with the way she took pictures. The problem was, we couldn’t afford her services.

Marla had been following her for a while and knew that she “gave back” by doing free photo shoots, but she wasn’t sure if being a broke missionary kid was enough to deserve a free session. As we talked about it, I told her the worst that she could say was, “no.” Eventually Marla wrote her, told her our story, and the photographer agreed to shoot our wedding for a minimal cost!

I’ve thought about that moment often. She could have told us no. In fact “no” is what we expect from most.

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